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New Year Individual and Family Goals

2012
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Purpose: Setting goals and establishing resolutions is the number one way people begin the New Year. The most important aspect is to plan according to what you really want to accomplish in realistic time frames. You can plan for one long-term goal(s), something to focus on throughout the year and you can also do smaller, short-term goals to work on for a few months at a time, or even shorter. The most important aspect is “if you fail to plan, you plan to fail.”

This lesson is to help jump-start individuals and families to set goals to for the New Year.

Lesson:

Goals have multiple layers: first, you create a visual in your mind of the goal(s) you would like to accomplish. Once you have in mind what you want to do, you’ve already accomplished half your goal.

1. Visualize yourself at the end point of reaching that goal.

Create a detailed plan to reach that goal. Will this be reached in 3, 6, 9 or 12 months? When will you have accountability on how you’re doing on reaching these goals? How often will you have this accountability? You can invite family and/or friends to help keep you focused on the goal(s) that you create.

What type of goals are you wanting to create for the upcoming year?

Career (do you want to achieve a promotion, finish an important project, increase sales, etc), Financial (pay off one credit card, two credit cards, all debt, pay off car, learn how to coupon and use them weekly, etc), Education (go back to school- finish your degree or begin a degree program, learn a new language, take a community class, etc.), Family (plan a vacation and set a budget, create a budget for your family, etc), Volunteer Service (make goals to volunteer monthly or do toy/food drives, make 24 Hr. Survival Kits, etc.), Physical (make goals to work out, lose weight, run a race, etc.), Personal Enrichment (learn to play a musical instrument, paint, cut hair, etc.).

2. Write it down.

Keeping a written log, journal or even create a blog to keep a daily or weekly record of your experience working towards your goals. Blogging can be a powerful way to keep yourself accountable and to engage others which will help you stay focused.

3. Create the plan.

Use budget sheets, goal sheets, calendars and whatever other materials you can find to get a detailed break down of your goal.

Set SMART Goals (from mindtools.com):

  • S – Specific (or Significant).
  • M – Measurable (or Meaningful).
  • A – Attainable (or Action-Oriented).
  • R – Relevant (or Rewarding).
  • T – Time-bound (or Trackable).

Discussion:

1. Is goal setting important? Why or why not?

2. How can setting goals help you discover new things about yourself and help you live your best life?

Activity:

 FREE Budget Tracking Sheets & other Financial Worksheets

FREE Blog Access (create a free blog to journal your progress in reaching your goals)

Why Set Goals? article

Treat:

Hot Chocolate & Marshmellows and No Bake Cookies

Hershey’s No Bake Cookies

Ingredients

  • 1 3/4 cups white sugar
  • 1/2 cup milk
  • 1/2 cup butter
  • 4 tablespoons unsweetened cocoa powder
  • 1/2 cup crunchy peanut butter
  • 3 cups quick-cooking oats
  • 1 teaspoon vanilla extract
 Directions
  1. In a medium saucepan, combine sugar, milk, butter, and cocoa. Bring to a boil, and cook for 1 1/2 minutes. Remove from heat, and stir in peanut butter, oats, and vanilla. Drop by teaspoonfuls onto wax paper. Let cool until hardened.
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FHE Service Project: Write Letters to Sick Children

2011
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Letters to Sick Children Service Project

Purpose: Jesus taught us by His teachings and His perfect example to bless those that are sick and afflicted. There are many seriously ill children in hospitals all over the world that would love to have your letters of hope and inspiration.

Lesson:

Have you ever had an earache, sore throat or the flu and felt miserable for a day, two or maybe for a week? There are many children all over that suffer from more serious illnesses that leave them bound in hospitals. Many are to weak to play and are unable to go outside, jump in piles of leaves, smell the fresh air or even play in the park.

During this holiday season, you can serve other children that are similar ages to those in your family by performing acts of service. One way is to visit them, go caroling at the hospitals, donate toys and even write letters.

Discussion: What are ways in which you can serve someone daily? Weekly? Monthly? How have you felt as you’ve been served? Share an experience of being served.

Goal Setting: Have family, group or ward members write at least one goal to be more active in serving those who are in need– like the sick and afflicted.

Service Project: Write letters to ill children in hospitals

Each member of the family, group or ward can participate in this service activity.

Gather paper, markers, crayons, stickers, etc. to make greeting cards to send to sick children in hospitals all over the country. If you live outside of the U.S., you can send letters to children in your own area/country or surprise some of these children with letters from all over the world!

Visit: Make A Child Smile (click to link to Web site)

You’ll see a list of children who would love to have your letters! You can click on their names to read more about them.

Treat:5-Minute Chocolate Pie

Ingredients: 1 Ready Graham Cracker Pie Crust 1 1/4 C. cold milk 2 pkg. (4- serving size) chocolate instant pie pudding mix 1 tub (8 oz.) whipped topping (thawed) 1. Beat milk, pudding and half the whipped topping together in medium bowl with a wire whisk for one minute. The mixture will thicken. 2. Pour into ready-made crust. 3. Top with remaining whipped cream. You can eat it right away or chill until ready to eat!
(recipe adapted from Keebler)

 

 

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Christmas Service Countdown Service

2011
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“Christmas Service Countdown Family Home Evening“
Purpose: To reflect on serving one another in our families during the Christmas season. Often times we can focus on selfish thoughts during this gift-giving season. It’s important that we strive to keep the focus on being selfless as our Savior was as we celebrate His birth.
 

Lesson: 
     “Over the years, many people, especially youth, have asked me, “Elder Cuthbert, how can I become more spiritual?” My reply has always been the same: “You need to give more service.
       Service changes people. It refines, purifies, gives a finer perspective, and brings out the best in each one of us. It gets us looking outward instead of inward. It prompts us to consider others’ needs ahead of our own. Righteous service is the expression of true charity, such as the Savior showed.” – Elder Derek A. Cuthbert, Ensign May 1990

Here are a list of ways service helps us become more spiritual:

1.      Helps us see true value in material things vs. things of the eternal value
2.      Service establishes a righteous tradition. Start serving when you’re young and that will lead to more willingness to serve throughout your life in the community and church.
3.      Service helps us overcome selfishness and sin.
4.      Service helps us generate love and appreciation.
5.      Service is the principle in which we show gratitude to our Savior.
 
Discussion:
~ What ways have you been served? How did it make you feel?
~ What are some ways that you’ve served others?
~ How did it make you feel when you’ve served someone else?
~ Why should we focus on service during the Christmas season?
Activity Ideas: *This activity requires prep work*
Prep work for countdown chain: Count down the days from FHE night until Christmas Day. Cut out equal sized strips of red and green construction paper to make the countdown chain. 
1.        Pick one of the ways stated below to use each section of your chain. Remember that the service continues and includes Christmas Day.
W  1. With each section of the chain you can write an act of service to perform as a family.
2.      2. Each night at dinner you can take a piece of the chain off and describe what acts of service each family member did during that day. 
Treat:
5-Minute Chocolate Pie

Ingredients:1 Ready Graham Cracker Pie Crust 1 1/4 C. cold milk 2 pkg. (4- serving size) chocolate instant pie pudding mix 1 tub (8 oz.) whipped topping (thawed) 1. Beat milk, pudding and half the whipped topping together in medium bowl with a wire whisk for one minute. The mixture will thicken. 2. Pour into ready-made crust. 3. Top with remaining whipped cream. You can eat it right away or chill until ready to eat!


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Thanksgiving Day & Gratitude Lesson

2011
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Purpose: On the last Thursday of November, citizens of the United States of American celebrate Thanksgiving Day. We gather as family and friends in tradition of those that helped settle the land so many years ago. We reflect on those blessings in our lives that we are grateful for on this day.

**Note: This lesson can also be used in other areas this week to discuss gratitude.

Song: “Prayer of Thanksgiving”

Scripture: Psalms 100: 4-5

Lesson: Here are some wonderful quotes from our civic and church leaders on gratitude and Thanksgiving.

President Joseph F. Smith said, “that one of the greatest sins of which the inhabitants of the earth are guilty today is the sin of ingratitude.” (From Gratitude and Thanksgiving, President Marion G. Romney)

President Thomas S. Monson taught in “An Attitude of Gratitude” six things that we should be grateful for:

  • • Our mothers
    • Our fathers
    • Our teachers
    • Our friends
    • Our country
    • Our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.

Abraham Lincoln, 16th President of the United States, as part of a resolution in 1863:

“We have been the recipients of the choicest bounties of heaven; we have been preserved these many years in peace and prosperity; we have grown in number, wealth, and power as no other Nation has ever grown. But we have forgotten God. We have forgotten the gracious hand which preserved us in peace and multiplied and enriched and strengthened us, and we have vainly imagined, in the deceitfulness of our hearts, that all these blessings were produced by some superior wisdom and virtue of our own. Intoxicated with unbroken success we have become too self-sufficient to feel the necessity of redeeming and preserving grace, too proud to pray to the God who made us.

“It behooves us, then, to humble ourselves before the offended power, to confess our … sins, and to pray for clemency and forgiveness.”

President Lincoln also proclaimed Nov. 30, 1863 as a day of national humiliation, fasting and prayer.

From “For The Strength Of Youth” Pamphlet: Gratitude

“The Lord wants you to have a spirit of gratitude in all you do and say. Live with a spirit of thanksgiving and you will have greater happiness and satisfaction in life. Even in your most difficult times, you can find much to be grateful for. Doing so will strengthen and bless you.

In your prayers, before you ask for blessings, pour out your heart to God in thanks for the blessings you have already received. Thank Him for your family, for friends and loved ones, for leaders and teachers, for the gospel, and for His Son, Jesus Christ.

You can also express gratitude to the Lord by the way you live. When you keep His commandments and serve others, you show that you love Him and are grateful to Him. Express appreciation to everyone who helps you in any way.”

Thanksgiving Church video:

Families W/ Small Children:

Families W/ Older Children, FHE Groups, Single Adult Wards: Give each person a blank sheet of paper and have them make four different lists.

List #1: Name 5 blessings you and/or your family has received this past year.

List #2: Name 5 people you are thankful for.

List #3: Name 5 ways you can be more thankful and show more gratitude.

List #4: Name 7 ways in which you will show gratitude this week. Each night over dinner, share with your family (or friends/roommates) how you had or showed gratitude or served someone that day.

**Allow people to share their lists if they would like. Sharing these experiences help to make the items listed that much more special and is a great bonding experience.

Treat: Marshmallow Pilgram Hat treats (this idea is sooo cute and easy to do–click on the link to take you to the recipe)

How to Make the Marshmallow Pilgram Hats Video

 

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Establish House Rules With Your Children

2011
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Purpose: Each home should establish its own set of rules, values and guidelines. It helps create a feeling of a safe and secure environment for your children and friends that visit It also helps to clarify expectations and define boundaries in the home.

Use this lesson as a guide to helping create rules with your children (of all ages) as to what is expected of them in regards to their behavior. Talk about each rule that you want to make so that there is understanding from the beginning. This also helps give them ownership in what is expected to make the home run smoothly. Also teach that these are rules that they should follow wherever they go.

 

Lesson Materials: Bold writing utensil(s), poster board/large sheet of paper

Lesson: Making effective house rules with/for young children.

1. What are some things Mom and Dad (Guardian’s name) ask you to do?
2. What are some rules that we can follow at home? (Write down some ideas the kids have on one side of sheet/poster)
3. (Turn the poster/sheet over) These are the rules we will follow at home. Write 3-4 simple rules and explain how the rules they gave are a part of these. Draw/take pictures to go with rules.

 Sample House Rules:

1. Obey Your Parents: avoid arguing and do what is asked of you the first time.

2. Tell the Truth

3. Treat each other with respect and respect each other’s property.

4. Help out around the house: pick up after yourself, establish assigned chores and discuss rewards/penalties for not completing chores that are assigned. Talk about being rewarded for doing more than is asked, but how they could also be serving the family (without always having to be rewarded).

5. You get what you get, and you don’t throw a fit.

 

* Other ideas may be included and adapted for the ages of your children, such as curfew, dating guidelines, grooming and dress guidelines and so forth. The most important thing is to keep communication lines open with your children so they understand why these rules are important to you and the family.

 

Poster Example of House Rules:

Photo credit: sugardoodle.net


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